THINGS MENTALLY STRONG PEOPLE DON'T DO
Don't you have control over your emotions? Do you also feel emotional being a sign of weakness? This book will teach us what we should do to become a mentally strong person. This book gives you a strong motivation and prepares the mantle to make us face the challenges of life.
Who should read this summary? Who will learn from this summary?
- Every person who has problems controlling feelings like sadness, sadness, fear, anxiety, anger, etc. Every person who wants to live a relaxed life
About the Author of THINGS MENTALLY STRONG PEOPLE DON'T DO books
Amy Morin is a psychotherapist. Apart from being the best selling author, she is also a college lecturer. Amy provides workshops and coaching services that help people explore their full potential. Amy's TED talk show mentions about Mental Strength, which has received nearly 14 million views on YouTube.
THINGS MENTALLY STRONG PEOPLE DON'T DO books Summary
Introduction
Are you a Mentally Strong Person? Do you think there is any kind of rigor or bitterness in your life? Do you feel sorry for yourself or are you proud of yourself? Being mentally strong does not mean that humans hide their feelings. Rather, people who are mentally strong, keep their emotions under control. If you have learned to balance your emotions and thoughts, then understand that you will always have the right decision in life and live comfortably. This book helps us to understand our feelings and to manage them properly. By reading this, you will be able to understand yourself and your family and friends in a more battering manner.
The Don't Waste Time Feeling Sorry For Themselves They Are Waste Time Feeling Sorry For Themselves
Jack is a student of Elementary School. In an accident, both his legs are broken when a bus hits him. Doctors say that Jack's legs will be completely healed but by then Jack will have to resort to wheel chair for a few months. His mother remains very sad due to this. He always fears that Jack might not be able to walk again. Doctors say that Jack can join the school in this condition even while Jack's mother is not in favor of sending him to school yet.
Mother feels that Jack has suffered a deep shock from this accident, so he should stay away from the school bus for now. His mother feels that if Jack sees his friends playing in a wheelchair, they will be even more depressed. So Jack no longer gets out of the house. He does a little study in the morning, then watches TV all day and plays video games. Some weeks passed like this. His mother notices that Jack has changed something. He no longer looks as active and happy as he was before.
Seeing Jack's condition, his mother was having a lot of tension, so she took him to the therapist. He told the therapist that Jack had been emotionally disturbed a lot due to that accident. The therapist decried that she would treat Jack with a different approach. She was treating Jack like a normal healthy child. He anchored Jack to write a book "How to Beat a School Bus". Jack liked the idea. He drew himself in a superhero costume and wrote in the end that he is a strong kid so he survived this accident.
The therapist tells Jack's mother that he doesn't need to be sad for Jack, because he is safe and alive. Only some of his bones are broken. Therefore Jack has to be treated like a physically and mentally strong child who can face any change. The therapist also said that even if Jack is not completely cured, he will be able to do a lot of things. Jack realizes to his mother that he does not need to have pity on Jack. He can live a normal life.
Shortly after this, Jack started going to school again. Now his life was as normal as before and Jack was also happy as before. Are you among those people who have a craving for themselves? Has anything happened to you that disturbed your life? Are you sad and unhappy? Many times our sorrows are not so great as we react to them. If you think of yourself as unlucky, believe it to be worthless, then believe that you are making your condition worse.
Self-pity wastes your time and energy, so you will feel more negative. And when you think negative then negative things start to happen to you. So what should you do for it? We tell Be active Whether you want it or not, get up from the bed, take a shower, clean your room or go to a walk. Keeping yourself busy will keep the mind busy and you will not have time to think negatively.
If you have extra time, then join a new hobby or read a book. You must have heard the saying "empty mind devil's house" so always keep yourself active. Anything has two sides, negative and positive. So you always try to see the positive side. Maybe you focus more on the negative side, so you are missing some good things. Appreciate what you have. Thank the above person that you are healthy and safe, there is a roof on your head and you are getting food for two times.
You have a family who loves you very much. So overall the situation is not as bad as you think. Change your perspective, this world will look changed. Think, what if your family or friend thinks the same thing you are thinking? What advice will you give them then? Would you like to see them feeling sorry for themselves? And remember the difficulties you faced in life. When you solved those problems, why not now?
If you have served before, you can still do it. Also, never forget to help others. A small help of yours can become a great support for anyone. Helping others is a Meaningful Act, beyond which we can understand and what is the use of someone. That is, our life is not a total waste.
They focused focus on things they can control.
James was divorced. For three years he fought in court for the custody of his 7-year-old daughter. But the judge gave the final decision that the girl will remain with her mother forever. And James got the right to meet his daughter on weekends. However, he did not like the decision of the judge because he felt that he is a good parent with his wife.
James felt that his ex-wife wanted to break up with her daughter. Once James had to go whale watching with his daughter. But his X Wife snatched this opportunity from him. She went for whale watching with her daughter before that. James got very angry. He felt that his ex-wife is trying to distance her daughter from James in any case.
Because she always gave him expensive gifts, kept Levish parties for him and brought him to luxury vacation. But James did not have that much money. He also felt that his ex-wife was spoiling his daughter. And James also suspected that his ex wife might be dating someone. James was afraid that the lover of his X Wife might not abuse James's daughter or behave wrong with her.
So James took help from author Amy Morin, he went to ask for legal support, not for therapy. James told Amy to help her take full custody of her daughter. Although Amy could not do it. The judge had given his verdict. Now James could do nothing about the custody order. Apart from this, her X Wife had cleared that she no longer wants to negotiate with James any more. Amy tries to convince James that all her efforts are useless and that it would not be right for her daughter.
If he keeps fighting with his X wife in the same way, then the girl will have a negative affection. Instead, James should try to build a strong and loving relationship with his daughter. Spend some memorable time with her daughter that she will always remember. If James improves himself, then his daughter will also have positive effects.
Has it ever happened to you that you killed a lot of hands and feet to control the situation, but still you could not control it. Both your time and energy went waste which made you even more angry and you became very frustrated. So what should we do in such a situation. Accept those things which are not in your hands, and focus on what you can change.
Believe that no one is your enemy in real. No one can make your life miserable except you. If you change your behavior then your circumstances will also change. Taking an example, Terry Fox had a rear type of bone cancer, so he had to have a leg amputated. She had to undergo chemotherapy for the entire 16 months. Then one day Terry read about a man who joined a marathon with fake legs. Terry dissuaded that he would also participate in the marathon.
Although Terry came last in the race, people were still cheering for him. He then thought of starting a fundraiser. Terry ran a marathon a day and used to cross the entire Canada. He hoped to accumulate a $ 24 million fund for other cancer patients like him. Terry's story reached the people and they supported him. People used to wait when Terry would arrive in his town. Terry ran for the entire 143 days.
Meanwhile, he had to admit in the hospital because the cancer had spread to his langs. Terry also appeared on TV. He had become popular. People were donating more and more for his cause. Surprisingly, despite being admitted to the hospital, as much as he thought, the amount had come into his fund. The sad part of this story is that Terry died after a few days. But the Terry Fox Run Continue is still running. This is an annual fund raising marathon event due to which many cancer patients across the world have received help.
